I am an intelligent, creative and sensual Dominant man with over 20 years experience on the London BDSM and fetish club scene, who has recently moved to Colchester in Essex.
Play Style
As a player I rock the Psyche-Dom-Daddy-Bear-Sadist role. I am looking for a submissive woman whose age and physical type are less important than a sincere desire to explore her sexual submission. That doesn't mean I'm looking for a woman devoid of personality or opinions outside the boudoir (I prefer kick-ass feminists); but someone with compatible intelligence, integrity and interests to challenge and cherish.
Although I enjoy the physical and sexual elements of SM I crave the cerebral pleasures of D/s from mind-fucking to total servitude and psyche games from fear play to high protocol D/s. Hence I find servitude, objectification, dollification, pet play, roles, humiliation, degradation and dehumanisation extremely gratifying. That said there's nothing quite as satisfying as a judicious beating or punch in the face. However, I'm experienced enough to know that every D/s interaction evolves on its own terms and exhaustive lists are less important than emotional and psychological attraction.
Outside Kink
I'm a successful lawyer at a London human rights law firm; and practice criminal defence from theft to international terrorism. I'm active on the London fetish scene, having organised munches, club nights and provided voluntary legal advice for scene charities and campaigns. I am politically engaged with predominantly Green leanings. I am a dandy and a gentleman who believes unerringly in civility and etiquette.
I have an ENFP Advocate/Champion/Idealist personality type; which means I value loyalty, honesty and expression in any relationship. I also feel strongly about everything I choose do (I'm also a Scorpio) and I'm painfully for real. So I hold high ethical standards and expect the same from a partner.
SUMMARY
In summary: I'm looking for submissive women for verbal stimulation over cocktails and dinner; before retiring to the boudoir to regally fuck mind, body and soul; and leave her covered cum, blood and tears. Until the next time.
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Art and culture are important to me and I seek someone with a similar outlook on life, if different tastes. For me what someone's cultural interests are is as important as what's on their checklist.
Here's some random gubbins I pretend to like in the absence of anything better:
Films: Apocalypse Now, Weekend, Festen, Jules et Jim, Joint Security Area, 21 Grams, Memento, Fight Club, Dead Man, M*A*S*H, The Night Porter, Maitress, Salo - The 120 days of Sodom, any John Waters.
Music: Tom Waits, Nick Cave, Mark Lanegan, Nirvana, Johnny Cash, Nick Drake, Radiohead, Miles Davis, John Coltrane, Ella Fitzgerald, Nina Simone, NIN, Tool, Zeppelin, Jane's Addiction, Rage Against The Machine, dEUS, Joy Division, Clash, Massive Attack, Tricky, DJ Shadow, UNKLE, DJ Format, Jurassic 5, Public Enemy, NWA, Burial, The Bug, Bonnie "Prince" Billy, Iron and Wine, Smog, Cinematic Orchestra, Dirty Three, Godspeed You! Black Emperor, Sigur Ros Polar Bear, Acoustic Ladyland and Septic Wound Party.
Books: Eco, Pynchon, De Sade, Amis, Self, Coupland, Palahniuk, Bellow, Rushdie, Chandler, Naomi Klein, Eric Schlosser, The Idler and Chap Magazines.
TV: I haven't had a telly since 2006 so I still don't know who shot whom in the final season of The Sopranos. I kinda like it that way. But i do indulge in The Wire (except Season 5) and Watchmen.
Art: Rothko. There is no-one else. *fingers in ears*
Food and Drink: Single estate arabica, game and shellfish (especially venison and scallops), espresso martinis, thai, vietnamese and korean food. Oh and Nigella Lawson. In suspenders. Suspended.
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